我去找你的妹妹說：“我不喜歡你抽大麻，因為我知道我們的父母不希望你這樣做。我不想讓你失望，但是你在冒著煙在我面前使我處於糟糕的境地，我覺得有責任告訴他們我是否知道你這樣做，但我也希望你能夠信任我，所以我想我正在付出您應該警告，如果我再次看到您吸煙，我將不得不告訴爸爸媽媽。”

這樣，她知道您不願意成為她的幫兇，與此同時顯示您知道不是要警惕她的工作-坦白地說，是您的工作。然後她沒有理由不信任你，因為當她越過你的邊界時，你告訴了她，並給了她撤退的機會。

我對歐洲法律一無所知，但是從您的描述和所在地看來，它仍然是非法的。
^{_{（US）即使在每個州，這都是非法的，即使該州有法律允許這樣做，例如科羅拉多州。如果您尚未在政府歷史課上學習，則聯邦法律將始終在同一問題上取代州法律。有一項聯邦法律禁止娛樂性使用大麻，因此，此時的州法律無關緊要。 sup> sub>如果您的姐姐繼續，她很可能會在某些時候被法律制度抓獲。不要以任何方式使她殘廢，否則您可能正在助長犯罪（在自由社會中禁止種植植物是很愚蠢的事情。）。}}

她的工作前景可能是^{如果繼續使用，_{（美國：非常） sup> sub>會受到限制。在您的職業生涯中，有些工作需要進行初步的 自願 藥物測試，而有些工作需要進行其他的 自願 隨機測試。}}

我首先要向她解釋1和2，你不會讓她失望，但是如果他們問，你也不會對父母或權威人物撒謊。隱藏的事物和秘密生活對您和您的妹妹都充滿壓力。你不應該為她撒謊。任何體面的人都將尊重該決定，並在想要繼續使用周圍做出相應的改變（只是不要在您周圍這樣做）。

編輯：第一稿是假設區域設置為美國OP回應為本地設置為歐洲。

I believe this is a situation where you don't need to take any action. This is between your sister and your parents.

To be brutally honest and selfish...

You say this, so it indicates that you know (somewhat) that this isn't your battle to fight. Your sister may trust you. Don't lose that bond. One day your parents may or may not find out and it could blow up. If it becomes very bad for her, don't let her lose another ally.

If you want your sister to quit, deal with her directly. If she's a health-conscious person, let her know that marijuana before the age of 25 can lead to long-term memory impairment. If she's family-conscious, tell her that if her parents found out, they could be upset or angry and that they also worry about her well-being. If she doesn't care about either of those things, like Elsa, Let It Go.

Don't let your sister lose an ally, a friend, and someone to talk to. Knowing what the outcome would be (angry parents) and still "ratting" on her only shows that you don't really care about your sister in this predicament but rather about yourself.

Your sister is being incredibly unfair to you & tell her that. All worries, legalities & everything else aside, she is carelessly putting you in the middle of something you shouldn't even need to be in the middle of. So tell her that.

If you feel she is not aware of the possible risks, particularly legally, for herself, inform her. However, you also need to know you likely cannot change her behavior and very likely she is aware of said risks & simply thinks nothing like that could ever happen to her. Many young people have this type of thinking for some reason.

It is completely unfair to you. It is okay for you to stand up for yourself in that. She does not need to be blatantly doing this around you. She doesn't have to distance herself from you either to just show you the courtesy of not putting it in front of you. If she were to opt to distance herself, then that would be very telling as to how significant her amount of use is & then that might help you determine if you want to bring your parents back into this.

As a parent I worry about my kids. I also know it's normal for them to know things about one another that I do not know. I would not expect one child to tell on another UNLESS they thought it were a significant risk. If her use is casual & minimal, then that is one thing. If she is becoming a heavy user, that is another thing entirely.

那麼，在毒品問題上，我無法告訴您有多少人認為他們在這個問題上是可以理解的。有不良藥物，但老實說，對汽水上癮可能與藥物一樣有害。

過去7年來，我一直服用阿片類藥物，而過去8個月裡一直服用醫用大麻。起初，我是如此擔心，以至於我會沉迷於這些東西，並擔心會發生什麼。我了解到

1. 每個人似乎都知道這一切，而且

2. 大多數人並不真正了解他們在談論。

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主要是傳聞和他們在電視上看到的內容。

吸毒成癮是指逃避某物或逃避某物的人。這真是一件精神上的事情。正如所教導的，大麻是一種入門藥物，也是一種精神上的事情，但它是BS。大麻除了抽煙外，還有很多健康益處。現在，如果有人追逐高價，那麼不管他們從什麼開始，問題就已經存在。這是精神上的事情。他們試圖擺脫某些東西或掩蓋某些東西或逃脫某些東西。我從藥物治療或藥物釋放中得不到很高的收益。一次更換處方後，我確實感到頭暈目眩，但我想說的是，所有這些最有可能取決於在心理層面需要解決的問題。

弄清楚“為什麼”將是首先要解決的問題。找出她為什麼需要這個。無論是對您有多有利還是有壞的辯論，都應關注其原因。她不開心嗎？她需要有人依靠嗎？是同行壓力嗎？和她說話時，不帶有判斷性。不要當她的法官；成為她的朋友。讓她知道您很在意，而且您在那里為她服務。儘管您的父母對此可能會感到有些緊張，但請嘗試了解這對她意味著什麼。合法性是一個問題。讓她以一種非常關心的方式知道這正在影響您，使您處於困境，但您確實在乎。強調您在乎的事實。這個世界上最大的事情是，無論人們是否想要表現得不一樣，人們都希望其他人在乎，他們也不想受到審判。擔任法官只會將所有人推開，並不會幫助此人。

順便說一句，關於在聯邦一級在科羅拉多州大麻非法的評論優先於州一級……影響您的唯一方法是，如果您嘗試進行聯邦工作，購買槍支，或任何需要聯邦政府介入的東西；否則，在科羅拉多州使用大麻不會在法律上影響您。查看 this以獲得解釋。

與您的妹妹核對，讓她知道您在乎。嘗試找到她這樣做的原因，並讓她知道您將在那里為她服務。如果她被您的父母抓住，請她讓您遠離它，不要以您的身為她來支持父母的論點。

如果遇到挫折而父母跳上你，問他們是否可以像成年人一樣與他們交談。詢問他們是否願意離開他們的姐妹或兄弟，並讓他們知道您感到被困。當他們走了以後，你和你的妹妹將互相依靠，信任將成為一個問題。讓您的父母知道，這對您也很困難。

找出您的姐姐是否願意以其他不吸入煙氣的方式來傷害它。那會傷害她的。您處在困境中，但不要為之奮鬥。知道自己正在盡力而為，只要需要站立，就坦率地站立。

吸煙者很少意識到，吸煙永遠不會影響自己，它只會影響周圍的人。當她的父母出現上班聞到妓院的氣味時，您姐姐認為會發生什麼？她認為吸煙對父母有影響，她依賴父母獲得有酬工作的機會？

您的父母不希望這樣做，您也不希望，但這種情況仍在繼續。也許您應該向她明確表示，因為吸煙會影響到所有人，因此她要么必須停止吸煙，要么在不影響家人的地方吸煙。無論如何，所謂的吸煙好處都是一堆自由煙，人類的肺從來沒有被設計成可以吸入任何煙。 ，她可能會感到出賣，也許再也不會和您說話，如果她戒菸並且沒有成為吸毒者，那都很好。與一個認為Im很棒的吸毒成癮的妹妹相比，我擁有一個與Im疏遠了的，無毒品的前輩姐姐，我個人會很好。我認為大多數具有理性思維的人都會做出選擇。

There are currently 5 states in US where marijuana is legal and over-the-counter in any licensed store. Also, most states (and countries in Western Europe) have medical marijuana.

Many people I know moved permanently to specifically address this. Even the Catholic and the High Anglican--omg, no pun intended--Church specifically use the term "illegal drug" in their respective codes of conduct; otherwise, they instruct temperance. Practicing Muslims forbid the use of most (if not all) intoxicants, but Khamenei's book on modern Islamic practices permit the use of medical marijuana (Question 1393).

The situation may be more complicated than you think; especially if she has gastrointestinal issues or severe cramping, and she feels entitled to use based on the compassionate-care model.

Depending on her age, she could legitimately study abroad, in say, Colorado, US, and spend as much time and money she wants on it. Statistically, she'll probably grow out of her desire to use, or she mighr pursue medical usage. One need not smoke marijuana for "benefit." There are patches, edibles, inhalers, etc.

However, there is legitimate concern marijuana is a gateway drug to other drugs like cocaine, which are way worse on your body and soul, as well as a culture of people willing to break the law for fun. The risk (in the US) of this has found to be minimal compared to other socioeconomic factors, but doing business with illicit drug dealers is inherently dangerous.

That's the complicated preamble. My point of mentioning all the above is her use may not necessarily be an all-or-nothing phenomenon. The best advice I can offer is talk to your sister about it. Let her know how uncomfortable you feel and that it's selfish to put you in the situation you're in.

In the end, you should honor your parents. If you live in a High Anglican/Catholic/Muslim home, most homes probably, this would be the expectation. Remember, they gave birth to you as well as pay for your Internet access! Secrets are occasionally ok, but on this issue, they are legitimately concerned about her health and want to know what's up. I find it far more likely they would offer forgiveness and act reasonably rather than freak out and create more drama.