孩子，您需要一個更好的計劃。

這將是一個很苛刻的答案，但是您絕對足夠聰明和成熟，值得您這樣做。首先，不要再浪費時間去解釋您對學校的“哲學上的”反對，以及為什麼您覺得這對您的父親是胡說八道。在這樣的事情上，沒有父親對兒子的“智慧”有絲毫的關心。您需要他將您視為一個男人，但是所有的事情就是讓您在他眼中看起來像個小孩。而且，您引用了自己不繼續學業的理由，這似乎使您似乎不知道世界如何運轉。成人必須 i>做很多廢話。您可以在打敗遊戲後與遊戲打架。

您在評論中說，與您的標題相反，您不想退出高中。好吧，我給你一些意想不到的建議：我建議你做 i>。或者，更確切地說，我建議您立即開始 i>學習GED。在今年夏天的空閒時間學習（如果您不願意這樣做，那麼您對此並不認真），您應該很快就準備好進行測試；這很容易。這樣，您就不會成為一個沒有鼻涕的，沒有野心的，會成為雄心勃勃的輟學孩子的人。你是一個像他的孩子一樣主動承擔生活責任的人。您是作為早 i>高中畢業的人來找他的。一個普通的神童！

一旦獲得文憑，就可以在醫院開始工作。但首先，我希望您喜歡 i>醫療保健，而不是只是說，哦，就在那兒-因為它會給人帶來極大的壓力。第二，您需要製定包括晉級 i>的長期計劃，因為這是所有非輸家的成年人都希望擁有的職業。在醫療保健方面，將需要更多的教育。您可能不必上學四年，但是您必須上學。對於不想獲得“特定技能”“認證”的人，醫療保健是您可能會選擇的最糟糕的職業之一。無論如何，您可能也想開始尋找您可能感興趣的其他潛在領域。有些人可能立即需要某種形式的一些教育；不要迴避他們，因為所有非卑鄙的職業最終都會要求 i>。如果生活中必須提出兩個單詞的座右銘，那就是：獲得技能。

無論如何，我已經進行了足夠長的時間了。制定一個計劃，了解您的計劃，與父親分享，並且永遠不要愚弄自己一分鐘以為您可以擺脫教育或胡說八道。祝你好運，歡迎成年。

如今，父母很難接受不上大學的孩子。高中畢業生的就業機會較少，薪水也較低。我的猜測是，您的父親對您的職業生涯不太滿意，也不知道該如何表述。我對您的建議分為兩部分。

我的職業建議是通過edX，Coursera，Udacity等免費在線嘗試一些大學課程，然後看您的喜好。您能否與當地大學的教授交談，看看您是否可以參加他/她的課程？在醫院擔任義工或與現有的較老的PNA交談。查看PNA是否喜歡他們的工作以及他們接受什麼樣的教育。然後開始預算，如果您不在家中並擔任PNA的話，要維持目前的生活方式需要多少費用。您是否需要租下餘生？您將要負擔自己的房屋嗎？如果您想擁有一個家庭，您將如何撫養未來的家庭呢？

我對處理您父親的建議是與他交談。告訴他您有一個計劃。向他展示您的預算和您所做的研究。向他表明你有能力像負責任的個人一樣做出決定。

編輯：具有高中學歷的工作也很可能被歸類為重複性工作，這恰恰是您不喜歡學校的原因。

我全都因為不去上大學，但是我更多地因為不去上班。作為一個認為同樣的事情的人，讓我警告您，放學後您知道那裡是什麼嗎？工作。並不一定總是有一個好的方法。回去要比從高中畢業要困難得多。從我去過的朋友那裡，學到的學位與生活經驗，人際關係以及大學的氛圍實際上並沒有那麼多，如果您選擇不參加的話，您可能永遠不會知道。不太喜歡電影，不要誤解我的意思。但是，作為一個從高中畢業就進入勞動力大軍（即使是非常出色的工作）的人，我現在回頭想一想，我想和我的朋友一起上大學，做任何大學生做的事情，以及可能避免躲避我會享受多少？艱難地將自己的道路刻畫成一個不涉及絕望的存在，為任何可以得到的東西安頓下來，並且通常只是獲得成功的生活。最後我做得很好。我想很好。這是可能的，但是這是一個嚴峻的挑戰，比起我上大學（至少要獲得AA），它需要的意志力和毅力要高得多。

對不起，我大多數人知道不要用他們的學位。我認識的唯一擁有計算機科學學位的人是我們僱用的最差的程序員之一。它不能保證任何事情，但可以幫助您將自己的個性和魅力帶到其他地方。剛開始時，如果您想要一份工作，那麼我們全都是紙上文字。這些天，您可能會在Facebook或其他任何網站上進行查詢，並在那裡進行判斷。但是，如果您有激情，請考慮是否可以在沒有大學的情況下上大學，如果沒有成功，您會介意學習什麼。

我的父母可以看到沒有必要跟我爭論。我只是繼續做自己的事，最終被接受了。我確實和他們談話，但范圍有限。我想說的就像您說的一樣，但他們從未對此感到生氣。雖然這可能一直在進行中。爭論將無濟於事。如果變成爭論，那麼也許您可以點頭說好，然後走開。

這將是您以一種或另一種方式做出的決定。如果您選擇不參加，請考慮一下您真正選擇的是什麼。

“思考未來”是您實際上可以擁有的最重要的論據。

認為學校是您規劃未來的唯一選擇，這是一個謬論。雖然您父親年輕時的生活比較困難，但今天我們有了互聯網，其中大部分是免費的或廉價的圖書館，因此您對知識的訪問幾乎是無限的。父親看到您為此努力工作，那麼他就不會有太大問題了。

現在，您父親可能會感到失敗。他可能會對您負責，也許您會覺得自己在丟掉自己的生命，這反過來又意味著丟掉他為您所做或沒有做的一切。

因此，開始為自己尋找未來您。找出您需要學習的所有知識並開始計劃。寫下目標，將其轉變為項目，進行結構設計並設定期限。向你的父親表明你的未來很重要。給您的生活一個好目標，並朝著這個目標努力。路線通常會正確，因此您會朝正確的方向前進。

並使它對您的父親透明，以便他能體會到您的努力。

I want to offer an alternative to the 'going to college is the right choice' argument that you're getting from your father and from others here.

I think the idea that you have to go to college/university right out of high school stems from the baby boomer generation's experience - where people tended to be on the same career track for life - and where going to university made all the difference in terms of what career you could have.

To allow you to understand - the fear is, that if you don't go to university now - you never will, and you'll be stuck working deadend jobs for the rest of your life. If you're interested, I write more about it here.

We no longer live in that society. Two key things are different:

• It's now very common for people to change career track more than once in their life. Lots of people these days train in one thing, and then change to something completely different in their late twenties or thirties.
• College now costs a lot of money, and studying saddles you with a large debt.

It's something I'm seeing commonly from my 31 year old perspective - young people going to university, studying the arts, racking up a $30k student loan while doing so, and then having no plan coming out of it.

That was basically my experience personally - I went to university aged 17. Finished my degree, then bummed around doing unskilled labour for a few years, before returning to university aged 26 to do a second degree in computer science.

So by all means - don't go to university, just because 'it's the done thing'.

However - I would echo what some other posters have said - you do need a plan, which you haven't really elaborated in your post.

Personally - I think working in factories, manual labor, or in hospitality is a perfectly legitimate move. As a young person you'll have far more tolerance for it, than you will as a thirty-something year old.

Bottom line:

• It's a perfectly good move to work low end jobs and just enjoy yourself when you're younger and working things out.
• However, you do need to have a plan.

How to deal with your dad

With that as a context - here's what I suggest for dealing with your dad.

Firstly, you need to articulate just what your reasoning is for the life decisions you make. I would suggest putting it into writing - personally I find that's a useful way to sort out what I'm thinking about things.

Secondly, I would take this to your father and have a discussion with him. Perhaps the best thing would be to print what you've written and let him read it, and hopefully you can have a more clear headed discussion. I think what's important is for you to demonstrate that you are thinking clearly about this issue.

The important thing to highlight - is what you'll be doing instead of going to school. It's understandable that someone will think you're making the wrong decision if you don't have a plan.

Finally - if this fails to resolve things with your father - then I think you need accept a non-functional relationship with him. Perhaps talk to you mother about it, or otherwise avoid him.

如果您的考試成績為95分，那麼大概是因為您不理會功課而得分不及格？

如果這樣，您可能想重新考慮不上大學的決定。在大學裡，通常您的大部分成績都是基於您的考試；

同時，如果有些課太無聊了，請問你的父親他是否可以幫助您安排期末考試。課程並放在其中，這樣您就可以繼續學習一些有趣的內容。

Sorry, but there is no free lunch.

You do not want other people telling you what to do? You do not want other people forcing you to do what you do not like?

Sure. That's what I want avoid too. The problem is you need independence for that. You need money. Money is the thing that you can throw at people to make them shut up, go away and stop bothering you. (There are other uses too.)

To get to ever do whatever you really want, you need to become independent. To get enough that you do not depend on other people. And for that you need to do some work. You might do lots of low-paid repetitive mind-crushing uninteresting work. Or some higher-paid and often much more interesting work. To get the latter you need to get the required skills and education.

You can "endure" some HS now and be freer or you can endure/suffer much more uninspiring things for the rest of your life. The choice is yours.

>How do I get him to calm down?

You need to present him a compelling plan that describes how you're planning to become independent and productive member of society.

Right now he just does not understand you. He raised you and lived with you for many years. He thought that he knew you, knew how you think. Then all of a sudden you started acting unpredictable and irrational. Your father no longer understands you and this is where alienation comes from. You could have accomplished this cognitive dissonance in many different ways (e.g. declaring "Let's paint all ceilings black to end world hunger." or "Rich people donate lots of money to charity, so I donated all our family money so that we become rich too" etc.).

Now you need to restore the understanding. You need to present the full plan with all vague or risky parts worked out. Why are you making each decision? Why is it better than other possible actions? How is the end result better? What's your definition of success? What can go wrong? How are you going to deal with that? What "Plan B"s do you have? This might work out, but you need to prepare a very convincing story. It's the same thing you do when you want to convince investors to give your money for your startup.